I was exposed to a lot of those movies where right before a couple divorces bc the man wasn't doing shit he would find god and the marriage would be revived--and I fully believe this trope exists not to be an ideal for men but propaganda for women. Actually I think all of these movies were made by one fucking studio but redacted and redacted in my family eat em' up like they're smut
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I'll elaborate later on my blog but there's not much else to say tbh. Christian ideals as an extension of misogyny blah blah blah
And despite anyone's intentions, I don't know who said this but I've heard this quote, "the purpose of a system is what it does"
I do not really want to have to read about systems theory just to be sure I'm using a quote right in my blog posting about religious trauma but fine I guess
As a queer person, the whole cishet romance genre seems to be 'what if a man was emotionally available' and it lowkey distresses me.
Oh my god. Please can I quote that. Can I tape on my eyeballs.
Like I was gonna say--the message essentially boils down to "you should keep waiting because he's just a lost sad man that needs to find his way to christ and you" and the secular version of that is "you can and should fix him because he's just a sad lost man and he needs to find his way to you" like either way it's keeping women in this submissive state of complacency.
I would love to see the "I can fix them" mentality explored as a toxic trait or tragedy rather than idealistic romance. The only stories I can think of that do this are my own, godbless
Feel free to quote and check out the new movie Obsession in theaters rn